So, after watching last Tuesday's episode of "The Hills," I have to say, I am absolutely shocked.
Most of the time, you know reality TV is fake, or at least somewhat scripted. You know that most of the drug addictions and rumors and accusations are all clever editing tricks or partially-acted scenes by the parties involved. Even though "The Hills" has been one of my favorite shows for 4 years now, I realize that a lot of it is completely fake. However, there is one thing that I firmly believe is not, and never has been, fake--and that is Heidi and Spencer's tumultuous relationship.
Prior to this season, their relationship had been nothing out of the reality TV idea of ordinary. Now, to quote Lo Bosworth, they've "taken a left turn into legitimate crazyland." Crystals, hoarding, brainwashing one another...it's turned scary. Watching this week's episode, I was legitimately terrified for Spencer's sanity, and, more importantly, Heidi's safety.
Heidi has allowed herself to become brainwashed by Spencer, no doubt about it. He yells and screams and threatens her family, and she sits by and tells him to just "take a breath." Spencer no longer allows Heidi to go on the computer or watch TV. Now, she is only allowed to read books, write poetry, and pray. I have also read that he orders her to clean up around the house while he just leaves his mess everywhere. This brainwashing only compounds Heidi's personal issues that she is clearly struggling with--after all, normal people do not undergo 10 surgeries in one day. Normal people do not call the police on their mothers. Normal people do not sit around in their houses, only leaving 3 times a month. And normal people do not completely remove their friends and families from their lives.
As for Spencer, we all knew he was a little crazy from day one. But at least then, he was crazy in the way that most young guys are crazy. He's moved from fun-crazy into crazy-crazy. Spencer clearly has delusions of grandeur as well as extremely violent tendencies. I'm no psychiatrist, but I don't think it's normal to scream at people constantly and want to control your wife all the time. I also don't think it's normal to have such extreme displays of aggression towards people you don't even know. In addition, Spencer legitimately believes he and Heidi are the most famous people on the planet. Ummm...are you serious? Yes, they have quite a following, but they are certainly not the most famous people on the planet by any means. The most fame-whoring couple, maybe, but not the most famous. Now, Spencer has turned to crystals as a means of controlling his anger, but it seems to me it's only made it worse.
As a couple, the two live in their home with a Marine who is Spencer's "business partner." They rarely leave the house, save for 3-4 times a month. Spencer orders Heidi around and tells her to clean up after him and their 4 not-quite-housebroken dogs. Spencer has lined the windows in the house with crystals to "keep bad energy out and keep Heidi in." They do not talk to anyone in their families--Heidi has changed her number so that no one in her family can get in touch with her, and has threatened to get a restraining order on her mother. Spencer's family has removed all of the pictures of him from their home and have essentially given up on him.
Heidi and Spencer, please, please, PLEASE get help. As a fan who cares about the welfare of both of you, it breaks my heart to see both of you in this awful place. Heidi, you need to see a psychiatrist, and Spencer, you need to take some anger management courses. You two should also definitely see a marriage counselor. It is so sad to watch your lives--and the lives of those around you--fall apart because of your problems and actions.
As for you, my loves, if you are ever in a controlling relationship, or feel like you are nothing without your significant other, you need to get out immediately. As someone who has been there, I know how hard it is to be without the person that you love, but ultimately, you are hurting yourself and the person you love by remaining in that relationship. In addition, if you are struggling with anger problems, body image issues, or depression in general, please seek professional help. Again, I've been there, and going to see a professional therapist is the best way to deal with things. Get help before your life falls apart.
xoxo,
Laura
UPDATE: Heidi Montag filed for a legal separation from Spencer Pratt on June 8, 2010.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Stuff Sorority Girls Like #3: Coffee Dates.
Ahh, the coffee date. It is a long-standing tradition amongst women of all ages that the coffee date is the most accepted way to talk about anything: the good, the bad, and the ugly.
This especially goes for sorority girls. While coffee dates are usually good (hanging out with your Big/Little, a chat with the BFF, meeting the new girls), they are sometimes also a useful tool in repairing broken relationships.
A warm cup of coffee is not only comforting, but somewhat pacifying as well. And, for that matter, most Starbucks don't particularly condone yelling, so whatever needs to be said can be said at a normal level, and you can duke it out like grown ladies. If, for whatever reason, things get so bad that you must leave, you can simply pick up your coffee and walk out like a grown woman--you don't have to wait for the check to come or whatever. Conversely, if the conversation takes longer than expected, most Starbucks don't close until late, so you can stay there a while.
Luckily, all of the coffee dates I've had have been amazing. :)
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
This especially goes for sorority girls. While coffee dates are usually good (hanging out with your Big/Little, a chat with the BFF, meeting the new girls), they are sometimes also a useful tool in repairing broken relationships.
A warm cup of coffee is not only comforting, but somewhat pacifying as well. And, for that matter, most Starbucks don't particularly condone yelling, so whatever needs to be said can be said at a normal level, and you can duke it out like grown ladies. If, for whatever reason, things get so bad that you must leave, you can simply pick up your coffee and walk out like a grown woman--you don't have to wait for the check to come or whatever. Conversely, if the conversation takes longer than expected, most Starbucks don't close until late, so you can stay there a while.
Luckily, all of the coffee dates I've had have been amazing. :)
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
Stuff Sorority Girls Like #2: Sisterhood Retreats.
Retreat is the time when everyone comes together for a very fun and very secret weekend. It's a time when we all bond and realize why we're sisters. Sisterhood retreats keep us close and give us good stories that most people will never ever hear about.
Why?
What happens at retreat...stays at retreat!!!
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
Why?
What happens at retreat...stays at retreat!!!
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
Stuff Sorority Girls Like #1: Tailgating.
Ah, game day.
The sun is shining, the fans are cheering, and the boys are boozing.
You have on your best dress and cowboy boots, and hopefully a pledge is driving you to your tailgate of choice (where your man of choice will be), along with your sisters.
What's not to love about this scene? Going to a tailgate is the most chill part of fall football season. There's boys, dancing, dressing up, and an unlimited supply of good times.
"You've got your sundress on for gameday / just to drink beer on an old tailgate..." --Luke Bryan, "Sorority Girl"
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
The sun is shining, the fans are cheering, and the boys are boozing.
You have on your best dress and cowboy boots, and hopefully a pledge is driving you to your tailgate of choice (where your man of choice will be), along with your sisters.
What's not to love about this scene? Going to a tailgate is the most chill part of fall football season. There's boys, dancing, dressing up, and an unlimited supply of good times.
"You've got your sundress on for gameday / just to drink beer on an old tailgate..." --Luke Bryan, "Sorority Girl"
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
Friday, May 7, 2010
Stuff sorority girls like...coming soon!
So, if you've ever read the tongue-in-cheek blogs like Stuff White People Like or Bros Like This Site, then you'll know that one of the more fun things to do in the blogosphere is write about things certain groups like. Which brings me to my next point...
I'm going to be installing on here a new set of blogs, entitled "Stuff Sorority Girls Like." So, coming to you soon will be blogs about:
1. Tailgating
2. Sisterhood Retreats
3. Coffee dates
4. Southern Gentlemen
5. Ugg Boots
6. Philanthropy projects
7. Making good grades
8. Sundresses
9. Slang used only within one's organization
10. Headbands
11. Vineyard Vines
12. Theme parties
13. Homecoming
14. Winning
15. Wearing your letters on everything
16. Shagging (as in dancing)
17. Blackberries (as in the phone)
18. The gym
19. Pearls
20. The sorority house
...and more! (maybe)
Get excited!!
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
I'm going to be installing on here a new set of blogs, entitled "Stuff Sorority Girls Like." So, coming to you soon will be blogs about:
1. Tailgating
2. Sisterhood Retreats
3. Coffee dates
4. Southern Gentlemen
5. Ugg Boots
6. Philanthropy projects
7. Making good grades
8. Sundresses
9. Slang used only within one's organization
10. Headbands
11. Vineyard Vines
12. Theme parties
13. Homecoming
14. Winning
15. Wearing your letters on everything
16. Shagging (as in dancing)
17. Blackberries (as in the phone)
18. The gym
19. Pearls
20. The sorority house
...and more! (maybe)
Get excited!!
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Azizy, baby.
There is nothing I love more than a man who can make me laugh. A LOT. Up until recently, there were only 2 comedians who could make me do that--Dane Cook and Mitch Hedberg. Now, though, there's a third man in the mix...
Aziz Ansari.
Don't know who he is? FALSE. If you ever watched MTV's Human Giant, you saw him there. If you ever watched NBC's Parks and Recreation, you saw him there.And he's been in other miscellaneous things, but this isn't IMDB, so I won't list them all here.
There are a few reasons why I love Aziz Ansari (besides him being hilarious):
1. He's a snappy dresser. Cardigans, suits, collared shirts...all staples in his wardrobe (in recent years anyways). He dresses like a grown man, and I love it.
2. He's from South Carolina...born and raised in Columbia. Even though I am from Charleston, I currently live in Columbia, and Columbia already has a place in my heart.
3. He went to the Governor's School for Math and Science. That school is beastly hard to get into.
4. He has lived in New York AND LA. Baller? Yes.
5. He hangs out with Kanye West. Yes, Kanye West was a jerk to my beloved Taylor Swift, but Kanye West also rolls like a big shot.
6. He thinks like I do. Which is way too hard to explain at 5:30 in the morning.
7. He's bearded.
Enjoy some of his hilarity with this little tidbit: (Warning: adult language and themes)
comedians.comedycentral.com
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo,
Laura
Aziz Ansari.
Don't know who he is? FALSE. If you ever watched MTV's Human Giant, you saw him there. If you ever watched NBC's Parks and Recreation, you saw him there.And he's been in other miscellaneous things, but this isn't IMDB, so I won't list them all here.
There are a few reasons why I love Aziz Ansari (besides him being hilarious):
1. He's a snappy dresser. Cardigans, suits, collared shirts...all staples in his wardrobe (in recent years anyways). He dresses like a grown man, and I love it.
2. He's from South Carolina...born and raised in Columbia. Even though I am from Charleston, I currently live in Columbia, and Columbia already has a place in my heart.
3. He went to the Governor's School for Math and Science. That school is beastly hard to get into.
4. He has lived in New York AND LA. Baller? Yes.
5. He hangs out with Kanye West. Yes, Kanye West was a jerk to my beloved Taylor Swift, but Kanye West also rolls like a big shot.
6. He thinks like I do. Which is way too hard to explain at 5:30 in the morning.
7. He's bearded.
Enjoy some of his hilarity with this little tidbit: (Warning: adult language and themes)
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Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo,
Laura
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