Reading about her engagement (all the delicious details here, and William's side of the story here), I started thinking about how lucky she is to know so soon that William is the man she is meant to be with. I've dated countless guys, all of whom were every type imaginable. (No, seriously, my best friend Kaitlyn and I played a game one night where we thought of every type, sub-type, and hybrid-type we could and I had dated every single one.) So even though I have dated every single type of man I can think of, I still haven't found The One.
Oh, sure, there have been contenders. For a large part of high school, I thought that my on-and-off man and I would be together forever. It was a joke for quite a while that we fought so much, we were destined to be married. (Or at least be future exes.) Then along came The Love of My Life, but of course, he dumped me because I was too clingy. (I was 17 and in love, sue me.) Then there was last year's summer fling, and we did actually talk about getting married someday. (We realized later that I was too much of a "wild child" for us to actually go anywhere.) Then there was my boyfriend first semester of college, who has been mentioned a couple of times on here, and who can be seen in the post called "I brushed my teeth in a creek." I never really thought he wanted to get married, until one night I made a comment about him wearing my semi-formal shirt and talking to his kids about his ex-girlfriend, the crazy sorority girl, and he said, "Wouldn't we be talking about Mama's semi-formal, and how Mama was the crazy sorority girl?" I said, "Are you serious?" and he said, "Sure." That seems like a lot of people that I thought I was going to marry, but bear in mind that, with the exception of Will, all of those boys were from high school, a time when I was very much in love with the idea of love.
Now, though, not so much. Do I want to find somebody to fall in love with? Sure. But I don't plan on chasing after it. Lynn's engagement story got me thinking about how behind I am in terms of love, though. I've never been in a relationship that lasted more than 4 months, I've never had a guy really "woo" me (you know, flowers, candy, romantic dinners, the whole shebang), and I've certainly never had a man take me ring shopping.
I'm know I'm only 19 years old, and people say to me, "Go out and just have fun," but for God's sake, I've been "having fun" since I was 14. Don't you think it's time for someone my age to try and settle down at least a little bit? The problem is, most guys my age (and a bit older) are either A. Not looking for a serious relationship or B. Already taken. The playing field has already been narrowed quite a bit. I have 2 friends MY AGE that got engaged over 4th of July weekend, and 3 others, also my age, that are married...one with a child, and another with a baby on the way! Those are probably extreme cases, but you can't argue with the fact that most people my age have been in a serious, long-term relationship at some point in their lives.
It's just a bit odd, don't you think?
What's even more odd is that I'm not even in a serious relationship, and I already know what kind of engagement ring I want. This, however, is not because I've been ring shopping, but because when I was 13 (maybe even younger), my grandmother and I went into a little jewelry store in the Charleston Market, and I looked down into the case, and THERE IT WAS. It was the most gorgeous, perfect ring I had ever seen in my life. It had a canary diamond, and I want a white diamond, but still. I knew it was the ring I wanted on my finger one day. Luckily, it was a classic style, and I've been able to find it at a couple of different places, but my favorite version of it is the ring below. It's from Tacori's "Dantela" collection, style 2639RDP65, and I absolutely LOVE IT!! If you want a closer look at it, (or maybe want it for yourself!) you can see this ring and more at www.tacori.com/Engagement-Rings.
Keep it classy and fabulous!
xoxo, Laura
Don't worry Laura. Your time and turn will come to you. If it makes you feel any better, you don't even have to do anything at all for it. It will just come to you. God made someone special just for you and His timing is always perfect.
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